Why do people feel they want to date, have relationships and need love of another like some cult?
Why people crave love to the point that they are willing to put themselves down to the point of depression if the they don’t have it? (even sometimes almost killing themselves)
Why do we feed love like a sure thing when in the nation that we know for a fact that love is not for everyone?
Why does a guy or girl is a total loser cause he or she chooses not to date?
30 years old and never dated.
It’s GOD’s calling for us, as seen in Genesis, GOD created for Adam a partner, Eve. And in Matthew, the story of ‘The Greatest Commandment’, where Jesus says (and I paraphrase), firstly, Love GOD with all your being, and then love you neighbor as yourself; these are the greatest two commandments. It pains GOD to see His creation hurt, to see it filled with hate and sorrow. Love everyone- we’re inclined to do so because GOD has made us that way.
I think that a lot of people think that they are really missing something in their life. They aren’t sure what that something is and they turn to the whole “it must be because i don’t have someone”. I think in our society today, a lot of people want acceptance by others.
I think that you need time to grow as a person and find out about yourself before you make commitments. Also, it is important to really know a person and not date people blindly.
Sometimes, people aren’t accepted by even their own families (sadly enough). They feel like they need someone to tell them that they’re “beautiful”, “smart”, “caring”. When you’re in a real relationship, I believe that you already need to know that this is totally true.
Love is for everyone. Maybe not everyone gets married, but I believe that in order to be happy, you must be able to love others, but primarly yourself. If you don’t love yourself, then there’s no way that you will love someone else.
There are plenty of single people out there that are not complete losers. Just because a bunch of people in relationships say that single people are “losers”, doesn’t make them in fact, losers. If a person wants to date, that’s fine. But, if the person doesn’t want to date, that should be fine too. There’s many reasons why people don’t date at certain points in their life and that should not be considered a bad thing whatsoever.
People feel they want to date because of a desire – a personal choice- to have a partner or companion.
It is not a cult, it is simply a desire to follow a biological tradition established by Adam and Eve as far as anyone knows.
I don’t believe that everyone who is lonely and aching for a mate is depressed, but simply heartsick.
Love may not be for everyone, but it is for almost everyone, in every nation.
The only people that think that a guy or gal is a total loser for choosing not to date are the immature or teenagers.
I don’t feel that way.
I am right now choosing not to date because I can’t find what I want in someone. Once upon a time I almost had it, and then it turned out he was just pretending to be that person. I have seen other men actually honestly be this type of person, so I know it is possible, just never any who were single and therefore available.
I am choosing to remain alone to avoid the torture of disatisfaction.
I believe this makes me a winner already.
If God should bless me to finally find that one person who fits my ideal, not just a pretender, I will count myself the luckiest woman in the world.
Until then, I shall just have to be grateful that God has allowed me the pleasure of feeling love for a man even if it didn’t last.
Scientific experiments have shown that love is actually caused by an amphetamine (related to methamphetamine) and when you fall in love your central nervous system reacts to it. As you get used to that your body begins to give you another, soothing chemical that you become extremely addicted to. Heart break is a withdrawal from this chemical, and is why it can cause so much damage. Since everyone has natural impulses to mate, it has become a social pressure to date, etc. When you do not feel a part of the dating group, you are an outcast, and that is a reaction to another instinct that you have to be in a community.
There you have it, mate. It is all purely biological.
Love and relationships is to me over rated. But it can be good for you if you find somebody you get along with. I just don’t think all that passion and lust can last forever, but its good for companionship, so if you got lots of friends then no need for more companionship I guess.
I agree with what you have wrote there. Sadly it a Western culture that if your single and not seeking, there must be something wrong with you etc. Why is it in this we have people saying things like ” will he like me” Will I ever find true love” etc. If you read what most have written in dating as if you can live unless you got someone. What it tells us how insecure some people are. A quick fix and the their lives will be great. I guess some of this is peer presure.
Love is a pleasurable emotion, therefore many desire to feel it. Romantic love is even more pleasureable, thus more desirable. It’s how humans (in general) are wired…to thrive on positive emotions.
Why do people go overboard? Some people are obsessive and have addictive personalities. They need help to better handle their emotions.
Love is not for everyone…no, it’s not. So if it’s not for you, then don’t seek it out or accept it from others. No problem.
Loser? I’ve never heard anyone called a loser for not desiring to be in a romantic relationship or date. Are you quite young? Perhaps that’s a teen thing. Adults are typically mature enough to accept that people date or don’t date as they choose…and either decision is fine.
y do you date? asking for ones attention.
biology